Friday, June 10, 2011

One Month Down

Today marks one month since Johnny left.  I think I am going to try and mark each monthly milestone with a reflection on how things are going, what I want to do better, and maybe even some goals and hopes for the next month. 

The good:

*  I survived.  This alone makes this first month a success.
*  Both kids survived, the dog survived, the cat survived, and I even potted some new plants (which, right now, are alive).  Shoot, even my hydrangeas are blooming.  Win! 
*  I have not gone broke on wine. Yet.
*  Some of my close friends have really come through for me.  Thank you so much for the effort  (Mel, I'm talking to you!)
*  I have stayed active.  We have really used or garden and zoo passes like crazy.  I am becoming a regular at the library, and the contractors building the new house a few blocks over know me by sight now because I take walks every day. 
*  I have not reverted to permanent toddler and baby-speak.

The bad:

*  I have not gotten to the gym at all.  I had vowed to get a membership right after J left (for the daycare...  They have a reading room, people!  I can literally drop off my kids at the daycare and not touch a piece of exercise equipment!  Ah-mazing!)
*  Some family and friends have disappointed me a little bit.  It is easy to be emotional right now, and I'll chalk it up to that, but I have learned that some people really.don'  Or even TRY to get it.  Bummer.
*  Both of my kids are teething like crazy.  It has made for some nights when I am up so much that I literally go back to my room and scream in my pillow.  I'm all there is, I can't shove J and ask for his help.  And some nights that is REALLY hard.
*  The Rock 'n Roll 1/2 Marathon is less than 3 months away and I am NOT in any kind of distance running shape... Which brings me to...

Goals for the next month:

*  To get into a running routine.  Even if it means pushing the BOB Duallie in 90 degree heat.
*  Go out to dinner a few times.  It has happened one time since J left and it was with both kids.  Not so fun.
*  Read something other than "People" magazine.
*  To enjoy Kate's 2nd birthday party.  There will be major person missing, but I know I can still make it a great day for our whole family.
*  To keep writing in this blog.  I have enjoyed it, and I think it helps to clear my mind.

What I am looking forward to the most???  MY MOTHER ARRIVES ON 6/24.  And she will be here the whole summer (she is a teacher).  Here's to going from zone defense back to man-to-man very very shortly.  And for the ability to run to the drug store, post office, or grocery store in the evenings in blissful solitude :).  I also just can't wait to have her company.  And to have my kids get loved on by their grandma all summer. 

One month down, 6(??) to go.


Allie said...

Don't know if you already have a training plan for your 1/2, but I used this to run three halfs and swear by it:,7120,s6-238-244-258-9369-0,00.html. If you'll remember back to HS, I was NOT a runner before this training plan, and it turned me into one of those crazy people who actually likes to run. Plus it's only 3 days a week. Good luck!!! :-) said...

Congratulations on surviving the 1st month. I had many screaming into pillow sessions last year and find them incredibly therapeutic. If I lived closer (or even in the same time zone), I would totally help out any way I could. Hang in there, Jill!


Sarah said...

Jill, I LOVE reading your blog. You can do these next few months! You are strong and resilient. You seem to have done beautifully, thus far. I wish we lived closer- I would gladly watch those gorgeous kids while you went running. Or I would gladly share a couple bottles of wine! But such is life- instead I will continue to read and send positive thoughts your way. Know that you have strong support coming from MI!

MilitaryWordofMouth said...

You are right about some people just not getting it. I had this one friend who would always complain about her husband coming home late from work each day. It wasn't until Justin was deployed that this rubbed me the wrong way. I wanted to say, "at least your husband is home." But, I held my tongue. Then once I was on the phone telling a friend about the possibility of back to back deployments or the one deployment being extended. She said to me, "Well that's his job right? You knew this could be a possibility with him being in the military." My mouth dropped to the floor. I couldn't believe she could be so insensitive.

I am loving your blog. You capture the emotion we spouses feel spot on. Please know you are surrounded by people who do get it. ((hugs))

Hi, I'm Jill!

Hi, I'm Jill!
Extrovert. Mom of two. Wife of a cute Naval Aviator. Lover of wine. When I'm not chasing my two kids around town you will find me writing, taking too many photos, and researching the ten future areas the Navy could potentially (but probably won't) PCS us. We are fish out of water, landlocked at 7,000 feet. For now.

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